Length: 400 pages
Audiobook Length: 11 hours and 30 minutes
First Published: 2015
For much of the 20th and 21st centuries, women’s sexuality was an uncharted territory in science, studied far less frequently—and far less seriously—than its male counterpart.
That is, until Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are, which used groundbreaking science and research to prove that the most important factor in creating and sustaining a sex life filled with confidence and joy is not what the parts are or how they’re organized but how you feel about them. In the years since the book’s initial publication, countless women have learned through Nagoski’s accessible and informative guide that things like stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it—and that even if you don’t always feel like it, you are already sexually whole by just being yourself. This revised and updated edition continues that mission with new information and advanced research, demystifying and decoding the science of sex so that everyone can create a better sex life and discover more pleasure than you ever thought possible.
Quotes from Come As You Are
You were told a story about what would happen in your sexual life, and that story was false.
But women aren’t broken versions of men; they’re women.
We know by now that there’s no such thing as normal—or rather, that we’re all normal. We’re all made of the same parts as everyone else, organized in a unique way. No two alike.
Love is having. Desire is wanting. And you can want only what you don’t already have.
Emotions are tunnels. You have to go all the way through the darkness to get to the light at the end.
Remind yourself that the day you were born, your body was a cause for celebration, for love without condition, and that’s just as true today as it was then.
About Emily Nagoski
Emily Nagoski is a sex educator, the author of Come As You Are, and the co-author of Burnout, with Amelia Nagoski. Nagoski has an MS in counseling psychology and a PhD in health behavior. Visit the author’s website →